§7καὶ μήν, ὅ γε μέγιστον ἐν τούτῳ καὶ φοβερώτατόν ἐστιν, οὐκ ἂν φοβηθείην
κακῶν γυναικῶν εἰσόδους
καὶ φωνὰς καὶ συνεπιθρηνήσεις, αἳ ἐκτρίβουσι καὶ παραθήγουσι τὴν. λύπην, οὔθʼ ὑπʼ ἄλλων οὔτʼ αὐτὴν ἐφʼ ἑαυτῆς ἐῶσαι μαρανθῆναι.
And indeed, what is greatest and most fearful in this, I should not fear the intrusions of foolish women, nor their voices and joint wailings, which wear out and sharpen grief, allowing it neither by others nor by itself to be withered and die.
γιγνώσκω γὰρ ποίους ἔναγχος ἀγῶνας ἠγωνίσω, τῇ Θέωνος ἀδελφῇ βοηθοῦσα καὶ μαχομένη ταῖς μετʼ ὀλοφυρμῶν καὶ ἀλαλαγμῶν ἔξωθεν ἐπιούσαις, ὥσπερ ἀτεχνῶς πῦρ ἐπὶ πῦρ φερούσαις.
For I know what struggles you recently strove, helping the sister of Theon and fighting against those women who came in from outside with wailings and shriekings, as if literally carrying fire to fire.
τὰς μὲν γὰρ οἰκίας τῶν φίλων ὅταν καομένας ἴδωσι σβεννύουσιν ὡς ἔχει τάχους ἕκαστος ἢ δυνάμεως, ταῖς δὲ ψυχαῖς φλεγομέναις αὐτοὶ προσφέρουσιν ὑπεκκαύματα.
For when people see the houses of their friends burning, they extinguish them with all the speed or power each has; but to burning souls they themselves bring fuel.
καὶ τῷ μὲν ὀφθαλμιῶντι τὰς χεῖρας οὐκ ἐῶσι προσάγειν τὸν βουλόμενον οὐδʼ ἅπτονται τοῦ φλεγμαίνοντος· ὁ δὲ πενθῶν κάθηται παντὶ τῷ προστυχόντι παρέχων ὥσπερ ῥεῦμα κινεῖν καὶ διαγριαίνειν τὸ πάθος, ἐκ μικροῦ τοῦ γαργαλίζοντος καὶ κινοῦντος εἰς πολλὴν καὶ δυσχερῆ κάκωσιν ἀναξαινόμενον.
And while they do not allow anyone who wishes to apply his hands to one suffering from ophthalmia, nor do they touch the inflamed part; yet the person in mourning sits, offering his passion to every chance-comer to stir and provoke, as if it were a running sore, being scratched anew from a slight tickling and irritation into a great and troublesome inflammation.
ταῦτα μὲν οὖν οἶδʼ ὅτι φυλάξῃ.
These things, then, I know you will guard against.
§8πειρῶ δὲ τῇ ἐπινοίᾳ μεταφέρουσα σεαυτὴν ἀποκαθιστάναι πολλάκις εἰς ἐκεῖνον τὸν χρόνον, ἐν ᾧ, μηδέπω τοῦ παιδίου τούτου γεγονότος, μηδὲν ἔγκλημα πρὸς τὴν τύχην εἴχομεν· εἶτα τὸν νῦν καιρὸν τοῦτον ἐκείνῳ συνάπτειν, ὡς ὁμοίων πάλιν τῶν περὶ ἡμᾶς γεγονότων.
And try, by means of reflection, to transport yourself and restore yourself often to that time in which, this child not yet having been born, we had no complaint against fortune; and then to join this present time to that one, as though our circumstances had again become similar.
ἐπεὶ τὴν γένεσιν, ὦ γύναι, τοῦ τέκνου δυσχεραίνειν δόξομεν, ἀμεμπτότερα ποιοῦντες αὑτοῖς τὰ πρὶν ἐκείνην γενέσθαι πράγματα.
Otherwise, my wife, we shall seem to be displeased with the birth of our child, if we make the circumstances before she was born more free from complaint for ourselves.
τὴν δʼ ἐν μέσῳ διετίαν ἐξαιρεῖν μὲν οὐ δεῖ τῆς μνήμης, ὡς δὲ χάριν καὶ ἀπόλαυσιν παρασχοῦσαν ἐν ἡδονῇ τίθεσθαι· καὶ μὴ τὸ μικρὸν ἀγαθὸν μέγα νομίζειν κακόν· μηδʼ ὅτι τὸ ἐλπιζόμενον οὐ προσέθηκεν ἡ τύχη, καὶ περὶ τοῦ δοθέντος ἀχαριστεῖν.
But we must not erase the intervening two years from our memory; rather, we should place them among our pleasures, as having provided grace and enjoyment; and not think that a small good is a great evil, nor, because fortune did not add what was hoped for, to be ungrateful for what was given.
ἀεὶ μὲν γὰρ ἡ περὶ τὸ θεῖον εὐφημία καὶ τὸ πρὸς τὴν τύχην ἵλεων καὶ ἀμεμφὲς καλὸν καὶ ἡδὺν ἀποδίδωσι καρπόν· ἐν δὲ τοῖς τοιούτοις ὁ· μάλιστα τῆς μνήμης τῶν ἀγαθῶν ἀπαρυτόμενος καὶ τοῦ βίου πρὸς τὰ φωτεινὰ καὶ λαμπρὰ μεταστρέφων καὶ μεταφέρων ἐκ τῶν σκοτεινῶν καὶ ταρακτικῶν τὴν διάνοιαν, ἢ παντάπασιν ἔσβεσε τὸ λυποῦν ἢ τῇ πρὸς τοὐναντίον μίξει μικρὸν καὶ ἀμαυρὸν ἐποίησεν.
For always, reverence toward the divine and a gentle and uncomplaining attitude toward fortune yield a beautiful and sweet fruit; and in such circumstances, the one who especially draws from the memory of good things, and turns and transfers his mind from dark and disturbing things to the bright and radiant parts of life, either completely extinguishes what pains him, or, by mixing it with the opposite, makes it small and dim.
ὥσπερ γὰρ τὸ μύρον ἀεὶ μὲν εὐφραίνει τὴν ὄσφρησιν πρὸς δὲ τὰ δυσώδη φάρμακόν ἐστιν, οὕτως ἡ ἐπίνοια τῶν ἀγαθῶν ἐν τοῖς κακοῖς καὶ βοηθήματος ἀναγκαίου παρέχεται χρείαν τοῖς μὴ φεύγουσι τὸ μεμνῆσθαι τῶν χρηστῶν μηδὲ πάντα καὶ πάντως μεμφομένοις τὴν τύχην.
For just as ointment always delights the sense of smell and is a remedy against bad odors, so the reflection on good things in times of trouble provides the service of a necessary aid to those who do not flee from the remembrance of good things, nor in every way and altogether blame fortune.
ὅπερ ἡμῖν παθεῖν οὐ προσήκει συκοφαντοῦσι τὸν ἑαυτῶν βίον, εἰ μίαν ἔσχηκεν ὥσπερ βιβλίον ἀλοιφὴν ἐν πᾶσι καθαροῖς καὶ ἀκεραίοις τοῖς ἄλλοις.
Which we ought not to suffer, bringing false charges against our own life, if, like a book, it has had one smudge while all its other parts are clean and untouched.